Wednesday, March 9, 2011

"following rules only to avoid punishment" - lowest level...
"following rules because they are right and good" - highest level...

Hitting begets hitting -
as well as anger, revenge, and the breakdown of communication between individuals!


Parental behavior must change before their children's behavior is most likely to change, and parents must become disciplined parents before their children will most likely become self-disciplined!

WHAT NOT TO DO... In Solving the Problems with your little one.
1 Hitting your child only gives her permission to hit others in similar circumstances.

2. Don't beg or bribe.

3. Don't label.

4. Don't humiliate or punish when child is clinging.

5. Don't get upset when your child clings.

6. Don't give mixed messages.

7. Don't make sickness a convenient way to get special attention.

8. Don't loose control.

9. Don't nag.

10. Don't spank your child for going into the street.

11. Don't feel rejected.

12. Don't punish your child's mistake.

13. Don't feel rejected.

14. Don't overreact.

15. Don't overly punish.

16. Don't demand cooperation

17. Don't make clean up painful.

18. Don't avoid cleanup.

19. Don't neglect to enforce the rules.

20. Don't give in to noise.

21. Don't use threats and fears.

22. Don't talk to your child from a distance.

23. Don't ground.

24. Don't rely on medication alone.

25. Don't instill fear of people.

26. Don't get angry and yell at your child for interruption.

27. Don't punish messiness.

28. Don't interrupt people especially your child.

29. Don't compare your child to there or siblings (never-ever)
(each has their own uniqueness and behavior)

30. Don't lie to your child.

31. Don't test your child's honesty-tendency they will lie back at you.

32. Don't label your child as "liar."

33. Don't take lying personally.

34. Don't expect perfection.

35. Don't back down if your child resists.

36. Don't punish your child for not following directions.

37. Don't punish for occasionally sharing.

38. Don't offer food rewards for eating.

39. Don't give in to his desire to overeat.

40. Don't give treats when your child is upset.

41. Don't consistently follow food while you're watching TV.

42. Don't give junk foods a snacks.

43. Don't make fun of your child if he i overweight.

44. Don't laugh or encourage the use of no.

45. Don't loose your cool.

46. Don't give in.

47. DON'T HIT!

48. Don't let your child control bedtime.

49. Don't treat or spank.

50. Don't be a historian.

51. Don't meet resistance to anger.

52. Don't overreact to mistakes.

53. Don't respond to tattling.

54. Don't set up one child to tattle on another.

55. Don't hold grudges.


57. Don't hesitate to search your child.

58. Don't teach backtalk.

59. Don't punish backtalk.

60. Don't play a power game.

61. Don't reason or explain during the tantrum.

62. Don't belittle your child.

63. Don't make your child pay for the tantrum.

64. Don't throw a tantrum yourself.

65. Don't ask the wrong questions.

66.Don't punish toileting accidents.

67. Don't let your child sit in the front seat.

68. Don't make promises you may not fulfill.

69. Don't let your child dictate your agenda.

70. Don't take your child for shopping for longer than she can tolerate.

71. Don't demand your child do something "now."

72. Don't reward impatience.

73. Don't whine yourself.

74. Don't give in to whining.

75. Don't angry with your child.

76. Don't frighten your child.

***Shyness is not a problem on and of self***


Being a mother is not as easy as 1-2-3 or A-B-C.
It is a job where you explore your capabilities, child's behavior and surroundings.
It is an exciting experience that everyday you have different experiences with your child along with his needs and wants to seek your attention.

At the end of the day, no matter how painful your headache's,
your child pays all the effort and tiring job you've done!

*i love you Elckris Chev!

by Phebe Eunice Rodriguez

Tuesday, March 8, 2011

Truely for everyone...

Truely effective discipline is all about education, not punishment.

-Dr. Michael Meyerhoff, Ed.D.

Avoid being a historian!
Leave bad behaviour to history and don't keep bringing it up.
What's done is done.
Working toward a better futuremakes more sense than dwelling on the past.

Empathy is the ability to identify with and understand other's situation, feelings, and motives.

Ask someome to do things; DON'T DEMAND!